Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Amazing Unpredictability


“Your feet will bring you to where your heart is.”
~Celtic Proverb~

There is something magical about unpredictability; that good or bad habit admired by some and hated by others.

As a teen, I remember my parents planning and predicting my future; high school graduation, college, walking down the aisle, and finally adding some souls to the family. Nothing turned out like they wanted. My father worked more than seven decades; making sure he would have a solid retirement fund that would allow him to enjoy life. A couple of years after leaving the workforce, his health started breaking down. Yes, he was financially stable but could enjoy as he would have wanted.

 As a mother, and following what my parents had taught me, I started a college fund for my children. None of them used it. They had their own plans, a different view of what life really is.

I have had many critics of my unpredictability although I have directed them to research supporting the advantages of it. They have taken it as a joke.  I don’t see it as a flaw but as a healthy inclination of following my instincts. If it doesn’t feel good in my guts, I don’t do it. It has worked for me ninety-five percent of the time. It is not a "go with the flow" but a "listen to your inner voice" lifestyle." Aren't we supposed to know ourselves better than anybody else? Well, then we should be paying attention. 

Sometimes we are afraid of saying no. We have the tendency of following the same path our parents walked through. We feel the need to be loved, accepted, and even celebrated, even if that means being who we are not and doing the opposite of the mainstream.

As I keep living I keep learning that…

1.       The best moment is now.
2.       It is good to save for rainy days but, better one good thing we did than two we never dared.
3.       The best inheritance to our children is our love, support, and the help we provide while we are here.
4. They will learn to admire and respect you for who you are.
5.       It is not selfish to enjoy our lives how and when we want to.
6.       No matter what others might think, we are always allowed to follow our heart and passionately seek life. There's no age limit for that. 

In the end, everything we truly desire will be found in our lives and we will be one with them; no need for excessive planning or lacking of living. 

What is your instinct telling you today? I hope you are listening. 

Wednesday, July 15, 2015

When in Rome...Flowing Like the River

Death separates us from the ones we love. It also reunites those who have been apart.

There’s a beautiful and historic district in the city of Rome, Georgia. Between the Rivers is an area surrounded by the Etowah, Oostanaula, and Coosa rivers. Here, in 1834, the city was founded as an industrial and business hub. Here these three bodies of water merged, greet each other and depart back in different directions.

I chose Rome to reconnect with my mother. You see, even when we have a good relationship with our parents, sometimes there’s a missing link. For forty-three years, we mostly connected by memories, words, and short visits since I moved from my country. Threading her life around my father’s, we’ve never had that one on one time to strengthen mother-daughter bonds. All relationships need time and attention. We couldn’t say we knew each other. It would take almost half a century for this to happen.

Walking down the district, we were able to share stories, some of them unknown to me. Together we crossed streets laughing like teens. She would occasionally get lost in time reliving her life with my father. While enjoying lunch she would share some motherly advice. Riding down the roads, she would let me know how proud she is of the woman I’ve become. Listening to her, I started thinking about our life’s cycles and all the things we do but need to stop doing if we want to live in peace with ourselves.

1.       Stop bringing the past to your present.
2.       Stop trying to understand people’s attitudes and behavior.
3.       Stop being the rock you stumble upon.
4.       Stop holding grudges and resentments.
5.       Stop holding yourself responsible for others.
6.       Stop thinking there’s no hope to change and make your life better.

Every person has a story. My mother created hers and I weaved mine in the opposite direction. During the six weeks we spent together after my father's passing, we turned into those rivers, sharing a riverbed, flowing towards different oceans but always coming back together to replenish and exchange our life force.

"Eventually, all things merge into one, and a river runs through it." 
~ Norman Maclean~


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Another great story by Paulo Coehlo. Real life down to earth characters struggling to find the meaning of life; a mirror of what we all go through day by day. The amazing story of Linda makes us ponder and question. What's life's ultimate purpose? What force moves us? What is it that we should all strive for?

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