Give voice to what you know to be true, and do not be afraid of being disliked or exiled. I think that's the hard work of standing up for what you see. --Eve Ensler
Women have an innate talent for speaking. It’s ingrained in our DNA. However, years of indoctrination have kept us quiet. It is still difficult for many women to speak loud, clear, and effective. From house wife to CEO, communication must be assertive. We must be able to express our feelings, ask for what we need, and display the blueprint of how we want it.
How do we learn? What do we need to be heard?
1. Inner work: Everything begins with us. Do some honest Q&A. Where is the problem? Are there any old beliefs or habits getting on your way? Are there any fears? Work with your self-esteem. If you feel you can’t do it on your own, don’t be afraid of asking for some help. We all need somebody.
2. Pay attention: Be aware of the way you interact with others. How do you react? Do you tend to stay quiet? Do you tend to give up too quick? Do you have problems when facing challenging views? Know yourself.
3. Personal image counts: Get in the habit of taking care of your body. Remember that only 10% of communication is verbal. We speak with our bodies. Stand straight and firm. Always look people in the eye, the portal to the soul. Find the right tone of voice; not too low, not too high.
4. Ask but do not beg. It’s not about “could I” but about “I need.”
5. Learn how to use your yes's and no's. There’s no need to explain yourself to others all the time.
6. Bring the “I am” alive. I've learned this is a powerful phrase. By saying I am we empower ourselves, stating who we are and what we already have in the present.
7. Stop criticizing others. Deal with situations but do not make it personal. Always respect other people’s feelings just the same way you would like yours to be respected.
8. Be yourself. Don’t fake it. You don’t have to be what you are not. Live and live fully. Find delight in the woman you are.
9. Rehearse your life out. Life is a story. We are in charge of characters and plots. Write your lines and practice your scripts.
Effective communication is not aggressive. We can turn the world around with a smile and a steadfast, resolute voice. Get in touch with your DNA. Once you develop your voice, you’ll never be hushed again. It’s time to own your personal power.