Wednesday, October 28, 2009

A personal mission statement could be a wonderful inner guide and inspiration to help you navigate the daily roads of life. In times of struggle or fear, in times of joys and fulfillment, our mission and vision is that helpful compass that makes us follow the right path. As I walk through my present, leaving my past, and waiting for what the future might bring, my personal statement keeps me centered and focused. It looks like this:

No matter what happens to me during any day, I am here to give the gifts of friendship, companionship, love, and a lending hand. My past was one of my masters; it helped me learned my lessons and mold the woman I am today. My present is all I have and need. I am committed to live it to the fullest, love it passionately, and experience it sacredly.

I am who I am; a sum of laughter and pain. Love is my law and faith my guiding light. I love myself as I am with my flaws and my virtues. I am a blessed woman made of soil and water, light and darkness, strengths and weaknesses, dreams unfulfilled, and fairy tales made real.

I am here for me and for you, to give and receive, to listen and share. I am here eternally to simply be me.

Sunday, October 25, 2009

Adding Forgiveness to Your Personal Account2

We all try to save. We save for many reasons: emergencies, pleasure, a lifetime dream, or simply for the “just in case.” Forgiveness is one of those divine life skills that come handy on each of those situations because on each one of them we could face unexpected situations, totally out of our human control. Then, why not adding a divine element to our earthly living?

A healthy account on forgiveness could provide us with a large amount of personal profit. If not just take a look at all the registered benefits of it. How does this sound to you?

• Emotional and physical healing
• Increase in physical strength
• Stress reduction
• Restful sleep
• Relief from depression and resentment
• More energy
• A positive outlook
• Increased happiness
• Peace of mind

This kind of account can be spread and share with those around you and you could really make a difference finding a purposeful life. Isn’t this investment worthy? What would you choose?

Saturday, October 24, 2009

Lessons in Forgiveness

Forgiveness is one of those feelings that we must learn whether we want it or not. If divine skills are not learned by choice, life herself makes sure that they are learned at some point. Our free will does not work here.

Every time I touch this topic the face of my father’s mother come to my mind. My grandmother waited for a lifetime to get even with her husband. Stories were told that in his youth he was everything but a faithful man, jumping from one side to the other. Every dropped load was a different adventure. I never witnessed those events. By the time I really had time to share with him, he was a transformed man, calm, quiet, and somehow loving. I could not understand the harsh treatment he was receiving from my grandmother. I could not conceive that kind of life where there was not one nice word; most of the times no words at all. And then I discovered her grief and the intentions she had been elaborating for years; her revenge, her inability to forgive and start over with or without him. She wanted him to pay at any cost.

The end of this sad story from my ancestors is as sad and ironic as the events that constructed it. My grandfather passed while staying at a seniors housing complex. He was alone but in peace. He never denied his actions neither accepted them but he had found peace in his heart. A year after his death, lonely as she wanted to be, my grandmother passed too. Her heart, still filled with anger and resentment, could not keep beating. The ghosts of the past always haunted her.

The day she was buried, on the same tombstone with her late husband, I could not help thinking on the fairness of life. There they were, together again, eight feet underground. From then on, time would be limitless for then to speak for the first time maybe and finally forgive their past and rest in peace forever.

Friday, October 23, 2009

Feeding Our Inner Wolves (Part II)

Let’s face it, many of our life events and situations can’t be avoided whether they are positive or negative. Many call this chain the universal law of cause and effect. Sometimes life confronts us with irrational and extremely painful experiences; unexpected illness, death, natural tragedies, lost. It is then when our lives are totally shifted, our center shaken, and in many cases there are no warning signs. We feel cheated, betrayed, and victimized. It is precisely then when we have to decide which wolf we will allow to take over. Would we open the poisonous door of resistance and let the black wolf enter or would we have the strength it takes to allow the white wolf to guide us into recovering and resilience? Would we be willing to give a chance to the magic of forgiveness? Would we let forgiveness teach us how to grow bigger among the ashes of pain?

Thursday, October 22, 2009

Feeding Our Inner Wolves

Today, another mother woke up knowing that she will never see her child again. A black wolf, a predator, killed the hopes and happiness of a whole family pouring a cloud of darkness that will never disappear; questions that will never have an answer.

Growing up I used to hear these stories, the stories of black and white wolves. In my circle, they said that black wolves feed from anger, resentment, blame, betrayal, and guilt, towards themselves and others. White wolves feed from self responsibility and forgiveness. Black wolves fall into a never ending and vicious circle of madness. They need to attack to feel powerful, important, and useful but they don’t attack another wolf like them but the only thing they know they can’t lose against, the innocence of a pure heart. This way they keep feeding their souls with negative emotions.

Learning to live from forgiveness is the solution to eradicate these obscure shadows but, as a mother, I can’t help asking myself, in the middle of grief and lost, how could we bring forgiveness into our lives?

To be continued....

Sunday, October 18, 2009

Taking Responsibility

It is not the job of those around you to shine their light on you. It’s solely your job to let that light come out. You choose on your own whether that light will shine and guide you or not. You decide what your beliefs, desires, and actions will be. You do not have to spend your life seeking for approval. Great relationships are based on mutual trust and independence of the self.

Saturday, October 17, 2009

Going Back to Your Source

You are the source. It has been like that from the beginning. Have you forgotten? Physical and non-physical;bring them back together and you will re-discover the amazing and limitless you, you have always been.

Sunday, October 11, 2009


Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even to the dull and ignorant;
they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexations to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater
and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble,
it's a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit
to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

Author - Max Ehrmann (1872 - 1945)
About this poem:
Desiderata was apparently written between 1906 & 1920 by Max Ehrmann (1872-1945) who copyrighted the piece in 1927.

Sunday, October 4, 2009

Simply Growing Wild

Porque soy la primera y la última,

yo soy la venerada y la despreciada,

yo soy la prostituta y la santa,

yo soy la esposa y la virgen,

yo soy la madre y la hija,

yo soy los brazos de mi madre,

yo soy la estéril y numerosos son mis hijos,

yo soy la bien casada y la soltera,

yo soy la que da a luz y la que jamás procreó,

yo soy el consuelo de los dolores del parto,

yo soy la esposa y el esposo,

y fue mi hombre quien me creó,

yo soy la madre de mi padre,

soy la hermana de mi marido,

y él es mi hijo rechazado.

Respetadme siempre,

porque soy la escandalosa y la magnífica.

Friday, October 2, 2009

Feeling Sorry Through Ties that Bind

How much time do we need to realize that feeling sorry will not fix our problems or those of others? How long do we have to sit, wait, live a broken life, and fake just because we feel sorry and guilty, because we think it is our fault, because once upon a time we made a promise, because we think they are our responsibility? What is the level of misery we must reach to finally have the guts to be happy and teach the rest of the world that we are not the sole commanders of their destinies, they are. We can listen and lend a hand, but this is their life and they cannot live through us; we cannot hold them indefinitely while time, love, and life goes by.

And today, I remember the prophet on love and marriage. Maybe we all should go back and listen to his words:

You were born together.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
and the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

Anything besides this could not work, like feeling sorry through tight ties that bind.


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Adultery by Paulo Coelho

AdulteryAdultery by Paulo Coelho
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Another great story by Paulo Coehlo. Real life down to earth characters struggling to find the meaning of life; a mirror of what we all go through day by day. The amazing story of Linda makes us ponder and question. What's life's ultimate purpose? What force moves us? What is it that we should all strive for?

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