Thursday, July 30, 2009

How Could You Have Your Life Planned?

On the plane, on my way back home after a well deserved vacation, and while looking to the clouds through the small window, this question suddenly hit me. I look back in time and, yes, it is true. Few times in my life things have gone the way I have planned them. I planned to finish high school and go on into a psychology profession. I did go to college but it took me some time. Instead I began my career as a mother and head of a household and Psychology turned into education. I envisioned a nice and cozy house somewhere in the mountains of my country. Instead, I left my country and got a still cozy house in a little, foreign town, far from my roots.

Many if not all things in my life have been unplanned and now that I think about it, the truth is that I have loved those sudden changes led by destiny, fate or a divine plan. Everything has worked for the better and the experiences I have gained on these unexpected paths have given the tools to become who I am today. Then, why so much planning? Life takes us where we have to be, when we have to be, and for the unknown but always valuable reasons we have to be. There is no point in trying to go against it. We just need to stand still and enjoy the unveiling process of our days; one by one, minute by minute.

In the end, I found out that education was my true passion, that being a mother was my destined masterpiece project, that my home was where my heart is, and this little town is where my heart belongs to at this time, that I am proud of my roots but belong to the world. I have learned to fight my battles, to be compassionate with those around me, to understand that every person has its own road to walk and lessons to learn at their own pace, that I don’t need anything that life itself won’t offer me when the right time comes, that I am always safe and blessed beyond limits; that in excessively planning our lives, we waste too much precious time because in the end the Universe knows best and guide us through the places we must travel to become a better person. There is no need for a detailed road map. That one is already traced for us; just enjoy the ride with an opened heart. This trip is amazingly and perfectly scheduled. Spend more of your time gratefully receiving the gifts in store for you, feel the delightful presence of the everyday miracles, discover the real world surrounding your essence, be aware of your feelings, thoughts, and actions. Planning is over. Living fully is all it is.

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Self Discovery

Today is the time to define the desires of your heart. What is your heart telling you? What excites you and sparks that passion in your heart? Changes, challenges, my family, my profession, my friends,my spiritual and inner growth,My Self; those are the things that add red hot passion to my life. Those are the things I follow in my every day living. They bring happiness and allow me to spread that same feeling to others.

Today, take some time to ask and answer those questions and discover what's really driving your life. Self discovery is an amazing tool to live fully!

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

The Indian Ten Commandments


Treat the Earth and all that dwell therein with respect

Remain close to the Great Spirit

Show great respect for your fellow beings

Work together for the benefit of all Mankind

Give assistance and kindness wherever needed

Do what you know to be right

Look after the well-being of Mind and Body

Dedicate a share of your efforts to the greater Good

Be truthful and honest at all times

Take full responsibility for your actions

Questioning Basic Principles

The first noble truth of Buddhism says: Dissatisfaction and suffering exist and are universally experienced. What are the causes of your dissatisfaction? Why are you suffering? What is making you suffer? What can you do to change this and start living a fulfilled life? Have you been doing what it takes to change the reality you have created?

Suffering is a part of our learning process but that does not mean that it is our natural state. We are not here to suffer but to find our happiness and share it with others. We are not meant to live as victims or allow others to victimize us.

Today dare to question the basic principles of your life, those that you have not learned but were ingrained in your mind by others. Look for their true meaning. There are many hidden messages that we have missed. Question, reflect, experience, and be re-born into the true purpose of your life.

Monday, July 13, 2009

Live Like a Hummingbird

Hummingbirds are sacred birds. Through their lives we can learn how to live life fully and out loud. They symbolize resurrection and an opened heart. They tell us stories of beauty, laughter, and creation. Today live like a hummingbird and see magic unfolding in your every day.

1. Live the present moment, that’s the key to happiness.

2. Be independent within the interconnectedness of the universe.

3. Learn how to fight in a way that no one gets hurt.

4. Be courageous in your actions and compassionate with your words.

5. Find balance and preserve the old traditions that give meaning to your existence.

6. Dance lively, feel light and laugh freely.

The best lessons come from nature. Call on the hummingbird and listen.

Thursday, July 9, 2009

Lack Mentality Anyone?

Since we have been trained to live in the material world, it is not surprising that any hint of crisis, like the one many people have been calling recently, hit us hard with a sense of fear and a feeling of lost. Where are you now? If you look around you, what do you see? What are you lacking today? If anything, what is it that you think you are lacking?

Would it surprise you if I tell you that you cannot lack anything because everything you need is and have been there for you all the time? What if all you need is to change your mind and get rid of that lack and limitation mentality? Most likely this is the root of the problem. Could I give you some tips to change your mind? By changing your attitude the world around you will begin changing too.

1. Stop dwelling upon your past failures. There is no such thing. Instead, start believing in your personal power to reach your dreams and create the life you have always wanted.

2. Wake up every morning knowing that no matter what happen in the world you will be whole and happy. See each event as a lesson provided to you to better yourself.

3. Do not doubt or feel discouraged but, most important do not allow others to discourage you. We all live our own personal stories. Do not get caught up in their dramas.

4. Like old Peter Pan, hold a happy thought; we all have one. Train your mind in keeping a positive attitude.

5. Stop making excuses for yourself and others. Do not play the victim. Maintain a winner attitude. You are in sole charge of the changes you want to create and the situations you bring into your life.

6. Live in gratitude. Gratitude heals and transforms.

Now, look around again. What are the things that you value the most? Are you truly lacking those things? I once heard this phrase: A man will always remain in the dark until he decides to search for the light, and the light has always been shining. Remember that you are always blessed.

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Living in the Ideal Prompt

What your heart longs for are not mere dreams but the prophecy of the place you will be one day. Your heart guides your emotions, emotions prompt you to action, and actions move you to reach out for what you have been longing for. Follow your heart, your inner voice telling you to live every day in your ideal; what you want to make real, and it will materialize for you.

Today, what is it that you are longing for? Is it love, health, friendship, youth, faith? Whatever it is, begin living it now. Your ideal has always been there for you.

Monday, July 6, 2009


When I look back at all the criticism and self inflicted guilt I put myself through when I had my first child at tender eighteen, all I could do is laugh and be grateful for those moments. Over the years of steep hills and unknown roads, I have discovered that one on my noblest missions in life was just that; to be a mother. I will never have all the right answers but I do have four wonderful grown up kids who are a faithful testimony of my own growing process as a mother, woman, and a better spiritual being.

My children have taught me many lessons, not all have come to me the easy way. Mothering is a long process of trial and error. It is made up of tears of joy and pain. Challenges are always there and when it comes to make the right decision, there’s always a hint of doubt, especially when raising more than one child all with completely different personalities. What could work fine with one of them would be a catastrophe for the other. There’s no psychology book able to provide with the right answers. Mothering is about been able to risk, reflect, take action, show compassion, be flexible, be able to admit our own mistakes, listen, be patient, and feel and unconditional but detached and tough love. These are the lessons my children taught me:

1. Been a mother does not mean that we know it all. Yes, we have been there, where they probably are now, but the fact that we are all different means that the outcomes might not be the same. Guide them, be there for them, but allow them to walk their own path even if it hurts.

2. Honor their individuality. Do not pretend for them to be your clone. We all come to this world with a mission and it is their unique task to find it. Embrace them just the way they are.

3. Listen closely not just with your ears but with your heart. Mothers have a special instinct. Listen to their gestures. Their silence can tell you a lot more than their words.

4. Communicate with them honestly. Let them know that you are human with strengths and weaknesses. They will appreciate you as the person to whom they can turn and talk about anything in their minds knowing that you will be there to listen without judging.

5. Always and I mean always tell them how much you love them. Show them how special they are to you. Your children are a blessing; the sacred entities life brings to your life to help you and give a special purpose to each of your days.

6. Learn how to say no along with a valid explanation. No without reason causes confusion and in some cases resentment. If they can’t understand they will not be able to learn.

7. Celebrate life with them. Encourage them to be their best, to dream and make those dreams real. True happiness comes with the simple things in life.

8. Teach them to feel, to give in silence, and to be proud of whom they are validating the qualities and feelings of those around them.

My road along my children is not finished. We still have many memories to write together and many more lessons to learn from each other. My initial criticism turned into praise; my guilt into innocence. They became the engine moving me towards all my dreams and goals. Today we enjoy a loving family where respect and acceptance are cherished, and love is the powerful bond that keeps us together.

Wednesday, July 1, 2009

The Beauty of Silence

I received a call last night. Through the voice of this man whom I have known all my life, I could feel his loneliness and desperation. There’s no one to talk to, to share his day to day ups and downs, his fears or joys. After too many years taking the miracles of life for granted, now he was finally realizing that solitude could hurt. Silence, according to him, was bringing him to the verge of madness.

I tried to understand and comfort him recollecting the many other stories I have heard. How to tell your own brother that silence could have its own magic if we just look for that magic within it? Silence could be as simple as the absence of speech but it does not mean the absence of listening. This is magic point number one; one that we can’t recognize because the art of listening has been an endangered species for too long. We enjoy speaking mostly to get our point across, to win our battles, to show how right we could be when we are not able to admit that we are in fact wrong. We don’t listen to others, much less listen to ourselves. Silence has the ability to bring us back to a forgotten world; the one we once belonged.

Silence makes us aware of our true self and that of others. Inner awareness is magic number two. In the rush to live, or to run through life, we miss our own personal vision. It makes us stop the doing, wanting, fearing, doubting, and running of everyday life to enabling our senses to pay attention to what’s really important. We turn into an empty circle where there’s nothing and from that emptiness we finally come to a new light.

The great Prophet once said: “The Kingdom of heaven is within you.” At what point was the message distorted? There’s no other place to look for answers but within us when we embrace silence. The here and now resides in silence; where anything is possible because your higher self is in motion.

I could not explain any of this to my brother. He has his own path to follow and he is confusing loneliness with the gift of the muted words and noises that make us better human beings. Silence is not still but always alert. It is a condition for us to find happiness. He will understand some day and I’ll be there to share the magic.

No, my soul is not asleep.
It is awake, wide awake.
It neither sleeps nor dreams, but watches,
its eyes wide open
far off things, and listens
at the shores of the great silence.

- Antonio Machado


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My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Another great story by Paulo Coehlo. Real life down to earth characters struggling to find the meaning of life; a mirror of what we all go through day by day. The amazing story of Linda makes us ponder and question. What's life's ultimate purpose? What force moves us? What is it that we should all strive for?

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