I just recently discovered that I belong to that 5 percent of the population with an Alpha personality. Scientifically, an Alpha woman is a person who exhibits self-assurance, physical and most of all emotional strength and control, independence, courage, an extreme focus on goals, skilled in building community links and a great listener. This kind of woman does not fear to show vulnerability and has a holistic vision, which makes her a great team player. This is the official definition.
Now that I know where I belong within the annals of science, I have been thinking about how these traits, which by the way describe me perfectly, have helped or delayed my path towards my dreams. It has also been easier for me to finally understand the reactions people exhibit when they meet me.
Independence, for example, is something most women want but many fear. It has been socially established that women walk under the men wings for protection and survival. Probably, this could be the reason why many of my female friends admire my independent lifestyle while at the same time keep a distance from what they wish but don’t want to experience. So I get positive comments the same way I hear harsh remarks for been independent, single mother, do it all by myself, country girl.
They don’t know that independence comes with a high cost some times and it has not been easy for me to get here. While they dance between the sounds of complacency, I have had to literally make the sounds, tones, high and low pitches, and the lyrics that go with them.
Courage is another trait that you achieve through struggle and tough days and nights; courage to take risks without thinking on the consequences, just guided by faith and that feminine instinct that is not used as it should. It is the courage to start all over again, from zero, to step into the stones instead of been stopped by them.
It is not easy to be under the Alpha category. It is a new label I have to live with but in all honesty, this is what I know for sure and am proud of:
1. Self-assurance gives you the tools to believe in yourself and be willing to move mountains in order to achieve your goals.
2. Being a great listener open the world of understanding, empathy, and great friends who know they can count on you.
3. Having a wide and integrated vision helps you in exploring the world around you, accepting differences, and embracing the unexpected.
4. Emotional strength helps you in grounding yourself to your reality and see blessings and opportunities even among the worst scenario.
5. My independence is one of my most valuable treasures because it is based on the notion that we are all interconnected, that we can be independent without losing our contact with those around us, without feeling as part of the all that originally united us.
After all it is not that bad to be part of just the 5 percent of people who believe in life and its wonders, in caring through action, in fearless living because all my blessings follow me wherever I go, in the return to our community values that would help us become a better and bigger global family.